An Evening with Oprah by Cindy Stradling CSP, CPC
An Evening with Oprah
In my last blog I shared my exciting news that my family surprised me with an early birthday and Mother’s day gift – two tickets to see Oprah at Copps Coliseum in Hamilton. I did not have the opportunity to ask my question, but the exercise of thinking about it was benefic
ial. I am now going to find a way to ask it anyway.
My sister and I left inspired and I am excited to share with you my biggest take away(s). Even though most of what Oprah said was not new to me, it was a great reminder to get and stay connected to who you are. I have watched her shows for the past 25 years and have learned a lot from them. This evening was a great reminder for me to re-connect to the things that are most important in my life.
For those of you in a leadership role and want to become a more inspiring leader this tip is for you! Oprah shared that whenever she does interviews for her life class show everyone asks her the same question after the interview is over. Famous people like Obama, Steven Tyler, Bon Jovi and others all ask “How did I do?” or “Did I do OK.” This confirmed for Oprah (and me as well) that each of us as human beings want to be acknowledged and know we did a good job. Oprah shared that all humans want three simple things: to be heard (to know that they were really listened to), to be acknowledged (this is our deepest need as a human) and to make a difference (to know that our life matters). Do these three things as a leader and you have the tools to build a powerful team.
This confirmed what I have read about effective leadership, to acknowledge and listen to your employees is more powerful than more money. It seems like a small thing but it is one of the most powerful leadership qualities.
Another question Oprah asked was “Who Are You?” Not your job, your roles or responsibilities but who are you? She shared that for as long as she can remember she is the Whisper of God (or Universe or whatever higher power you believe in, or not). This is who she is, not what she does. She does many things. I have been thinking about this for myself since Saturday and have spoken with a few of my friends and colleagues. For me I am a “connector” in every area of my life. I can see it and feel it. What about you, who are you? There is a trend now for leaders to “brand” themselves and this is in alignment with this.
Oprah also shared about the importance of being present. We hear it all the time “Be Here Now.” If you want to be a more powerful leader in your life, whether it is exercising self leadership or leading others it is critical to be present. Learning techniques such as meditation will help you be more connected and in the moment will also help you further develop as an inspiring leader. She also shared the importance of an attitude of gratitude. We have so much to be thankful for and often we take things for granted. Take the time each day to either journal or verbalize the things you are grateful for.
I taped the show and once I listen to it I will share other insights in future blogs. Whether you like Oprah or not, her life lessons and the life lessons of her guests can be applied to everyone.